What are Boundaries?
There are many types of boundaries, and you likely encounter them on a regular basis. Boundaries can help define an area, create a sense of safety, and be physical, mental, or emotional. Frequently boundaries are seen as separating people or things, and they can do that. However, boundaries can also bring people closer together. Boundaries in relationships are personal limits we set for ourselves to maintain a relationship that feels safe and prioritizes well-being. Boundaries can help bring balance between independence and connection.
How Can Boundaries Build Connection?
Setting a boundary is a way of communicating needs and can feel vulnerable. When someone shares a boundary with you, you might try recognizing it as a small window into someone’s inner world in which they feel safe enough to share their needs with you.
A great example of relational boundaries would be to think of a time when a friend told you they were unable to hang out or perhaps they mentioned they can only engage in certain situations like smaller gatherings. This boundary setting is a sign someone is wanting to maintain their relationship with you but may have limited energy or time due to life circumstances. When we start to recognize boundaries as a way to maintain relationships as in the above example, it becomes clear how they can allow people to grow closer.
Reflect For Deeper Understanding
Consider these questions: When was the last time you set a boundary in a relationship? What was your thought process in setting it? In what way did the boundary help you maintain the relationship? Was it hard to set the boundary?
The counselors at Gaithersburg Counseling Center in Gaithersburg, MD are here to help you discover and find balance with boundaries that work for you in your life. Contact us to schedule an appointment, call 240-274-5680 or email Admin@HealingLLC.com.
When working with clients, Amy (she/her) uses her warm personality along with her relational approach to engage her clients in the therapeutic process. She has always strived to have a supportive, collaborative relationship with her clients, allowing for deep personal growth and healing.